What are the Main Ingredients for a Successful Relationship?
In our role as Introduction Consultants, we often get asked what the key ingredient is to a successful relationship. But I don’t believe that there is just one key ingredient, I believe that for a relationship to work well, it requires a number of ingredients. So, to answer the question once and for all, I have written a recipe!
3 Tablespoons of Patience
There is no such thing as a perfect partner, everyone has their own annoying habits and little imperfections. Patience is needed to help you put up with the other persons flaws and to even learn to love them for it. A bit of patience will go a long way and will stop you arguing every time they do something to annoy you!
1 Teaspoon of Common Ground
Now you may have completely different hobbies and interests to your partner and this is fine. It doesn’t mean that because you have different interests, it won’t work. After all, opposites attract! But what’s important is that you have something, no matter how small, in common. This could be a shared love of the theatre or football, or even just a similar personality trait or value.
200g of Respect
This is a really important ingredient. It is essential for a successful relationship, that you treat your partner and their feelings with respect. As such, it is important when you make any big decisions, that you consider your partner and how the decision will affect them. Be mindful of their thoughts and feelings and be considerate of these.
100g of Passion/Attraction
For a relationship to remain faithful, it is important that you are attracted to your partner and that you keep the passion and spark alive in a relationship. Inevitably the feelings of not being able to keep your hands off each other will lessen as time passes, but it is important to make sure that you keep some excitement. There are lots of things you can do to keep the passion alive, some as simple as making time for each other, going on a date and making an effort to look good for each other.
100g of Understanding
You and your partner may not always see eye to eye on everything, in fact if you do, your definitely in the minority! The trick is to make sure that you try and understand where the other person is coming from and how they are feeling about something. If you don’t understand why they feel a certain way, ask them to explain in more detail rather than just dismissing their feelings. If you still don’t understand after that, then just appreciate and respect the fact that they feel that way, rather than making them feel silly.
100g of Loyalty
Now just to be clear, by loyalty, I mean ‘to have each other’s backs’. Stand by each other through difficult times and support each other. Be there for them when they need you and don’t pull them up on something in front of others, do it in private.
200g of Trust
This is a really important ingredient! You need to be able to trust the person you’re with. If you don’t have trust in your relationship, then you may as well end it now. This means, not feeling the need to look through their phone or to check up on where they are and who they are with all the time. Having said that, it is equally as important to give your partner reasons to trust you and not reasons to doubt you. For example, taking your phone everywhere (including the bathroom), being secretive, being uncontactable all night, etc. is a sure way to give your partner reasons to question the trust.
1 Tablespoon of Friendship/Love
It is important that as well as being partners, you are also friends. You should enjoy spending time together, having conversations with each other and doing nice things for one another, such as buying each other lunch or planning a surprise night out together. Your partner should be someone that you really care about and look forward to seeing.
50g of Communication
For any relationship to work, communication is key. You must be able to talk to your partner and listen when they need to talk, especially when you have any issues or problems in your relationship. Just general chit chat and day to day conversation is also important, just so that you can stay connected and know what’s going on in each other’s lives.
1 Teaspoon of Time Apart
Now I know this sounds a strange one, but for a relationship to be successful, you need to not live in each other’s pockets. It is important that you give your partner time to miss you and that you do some things separately, such as a hobby or time with friends, so that you have things to talk about when you do get together.
So, there you have the 10 main ingredients to cook up a successful relationship. If you’re reading this and feel you have all of these, then congratulations, your built to last! If not, then it may be time to give your relationship some TLC.
Written By: Liz Harwood